Monday, May 11, 2009

Too big to pick up?

My son didn't like being held most of his life and now that he weighs 60 lbs. he wants to be picked up occasionally. How can I say no? This is one of the many reasons I work out!

4 comments:

Ashley's Mom said...

My daughter is the same way. Now that she is almost too big to hold, she wants to be held! I don't care though because I have never stopped wanting to hold her :)

Queenbuv3 said...

I know! It practically kills me to pick him up and hold him, I have a back injury from an accident, but I just can't resist holding him! I feel like it is so important to respond to any attempts he makes at showing affection and love. And besides, I have to get caught up on all the holding and hugs I missed out on when he was little : ) Better late than never!

amanda said...

Awesome! My mom keeps telling me that my son is getting to big to pick up... he's only 37lbs and almost 5 years old. I just don't think he'll ever be too big. I love any and all affection!

Queenbuv3 said...

Amanda, Our children are never "too old" to need love. It's sooo important to respond to any demonstration of seeking comfort and affection from our kids on the spectrum. When my son was little and receiving early intervention they told me to touch him and hug him, etc. even though he didn't seem to like it. We never did it to the point of upsetting him but over time he has come to enjoy and seek out hand holding, sitting on our laps (crushes my poor little legs until they go numb but I can't say no!), snuggling on the couch, hugs (still working on putting his arms around us) and kisses.

I know my son can tell he is different. But he knows we love him just the way he is and it gives him the strength to get through everyday and keep on trying to improve his skills and be the best that he can be. No matter what anyone else thinks about him or his Autism, his family loves him unconditionally and that is all anyone wants in life is to feel accepted and special.